It’s that time of year where New Year’s resolutions begin to gasp for their final breaths.

But you don’t have to give up on them completely just yet!

In an interview several years ago a journalist asked Oprah: “Oprah, why do you work?” To which she replied with a sense of humor “Why do I work, or why do I workout?” The journalist confirmed he was asking about the former, to which Oprah gave an inspiring passionate response, she said:

 

“I work because it’s my purpose. It’s my vehicle for elevating the consciousness of the planet. It’s my vehicle for transforming people’s lives. It’s what I do, it’s why I’m here, it’s my purpose for being.”

 

To carry on the joke, the journalist came back to Oprah’s comedic initial response and asked her “So, why do you workout?” To which she replied: “I workout so I don’t have a fat butt.”

We’re deep into that magical time when everyone starts to fall off of their New Year’s resolutions.

Why does that happen so consistently?

It happens so consistently to the point that it’s become its own joke, yet it doesn’t stop people from half-heartedly setting their intention for the year ahead — even after a year like 2020. I know many people who take to social media to announce their intentions, and in the post they’ll jokingly state the belief that they also know they won’t accomplish it. 

What was your intention for the new year? How are you doing with it? Have you stayed the course or have you stumbled, or maybe even given up completely until next year?

Why do so many people fall off their path within 14 days of starting? The answer is simple yet multifaceted, but can be easily summed up, and corrected.

What was your intention? Was it a financial goal? Was it around relationships? Or was it something like Oprah with her health and fitness goal?

It doesn’t really matter.

If you’re like most people, you went strong for a few days, and then it began getting more and more challenging to stay the path. And if you’re still on course it’s probably just by the skin of your teeth.

Why is that?

But you don’t have to give up on them completely just yet!

In an interview several year ago a journalist asked Oprah “Oprah, why do you work?” To which she replied with a sense of humor “Why do I work, or why do I workout?” The journalist confirmed he was asking about the former, to which Oprah gave an inspiring passionate response, she said: “I work because it’s my purpose. It’s my vehicle for elevating the consciousness of the planet. It’s my vehicle for transforming people’s lives. It’s what I do, it’s why I’m here, it’s my purpose for being.”

To carry on the joke, the journalist came back to Oprah’s comedic initial response and asked her “So, why do you workout?” To which she replied: “I workout so I don’t have a fat butt.”

We’re deep into that magical time when everyone starts to fall off of their New Year’s resolutions.

Why does that happen so consistently?

It happens so consistently that it’s become it’s own joke, yet it doesn’t stop people from half-heartedly setting their intention for the year ahead; even after a year like 2020. I know many people who take to social media to announce their intentions, and in the post they’ll jokingly state the belief that they know they won’t accomplish it. 

What was your intention for the new year? How are you doing with it? Have you stayed the course or have you stumbled, or maybe even given up completely until next year?

Why do so many people fall off their path within 14 days of starting? The answer is simple yet multifaceted but can be easily summed up and corrected.

What was your intention? Was it a financial goal? Was it around relationships? Or was it something like Oprah with her health and fitness goal?

It doesn’t really matter.

If you’re like most people, you went strong for a few days, and then it began getting more and more challenging to stay the path, and if you’re still on course it’s probably just by the skin of your teeth.

Why is that?

See, we have a conscious and unconscious mind. Our conscious mind is what we’re using to have this conversation, and it runs 5% of our lives (some studies suggest even less.) Our unconscious mind runs the other 95% or more. 

The conscious mind is the goal/intention setter. The unconscious mind is the goal/intention getter. 

Most people think the unconscious mind is only responsible for pulse, hair growth, digestion, etc, but that’s only the tip of the iceberg. In the context of intention and goal-setting it’s running all of our beliefs, programming, emotions, and values. 

In the opening dialogue, I shared a snippet from an interview Oprah gave. No matter how you feel about Oprah, you can’t deny her amazing success in business and the fact that she’s impacted a ton of lives. She’s for sure faced many challenges in her life but she has never let that slow her down on her purpose-driven path. She is so clear and attached to what she’s heading towards.

Now, look at her statement about fitness. She’s been very open about her struggle with weight and her statement shows exactly why. She’s trying to move away from something and there’s no passionate connection. She has hired coaches, trainers, nutritionists, chefs, etc, and has never been able to overcome it. Why?

When we fall short of our intentions and goals it’s because our unconscious mind isn’t on board. The easiest way to get it to come along with us to our desired destination is by getting to the root cause of the baggage and releasing it, but if you don’t have a coach or therapist specifically trained in techniques like Root Cause Release™ then are you stuck completely? Not exactly.

 

Here are some things you can do to build the momentum much easier:

 

1. Get clear

What do you want? This probably seems a little ridiculous and redundant but you’d be surprised how many times I have had a client who comes to me saying things like: “I can’t seem to have what I want in life.” And when I ask what they want I am met with a blank stare or, “I don’t know.” 

So, what do you want? If you’re having a hard time answering this question then think about what you don’t want, and then figure out what the opposite of that is for a clue. 

 

2. Why?

Why do you want what you want? Is it for you or someone else? Everything we work towards manifesting should be in alignment with ecology (where it’s good for you, others and the greater good) but it needs to be something that speaks to you at a heart level. It needs to be for you and excite you.

I met a doctor once at a seminar and all he wanted to do was restore classic cars. He chose the path of medicine because it’s what his mom wanted for him. He made a good living but was miserable. I don’t know about you but on the rare occasion I go see a doctor I want to go to one who is there because he wants to heal people. I want the person who spent their entire childhood putting bandaids on their stuffed animals. I don’t want to put my health in the hands of someone who is there because their mom made them. 

Did you ever have an experience when you were a kid and your mom made you play with a kid you didn’t like? Or she made you go visit an old relative or friend of hers? How was your energy during those “mom made me” moments? Not good, huh? Can you imagine going to see someone about your health and they’re stuck in that “mom made me” energy for their entire adult life? Not me.

Set your intentions and goals around what lights YOU up, not what your mommy, or friends, or neighbors want. 

 

3. Get specific

The more dialed in you can get the more you’re going to want it, consciously and unconsciously. I know there very well may be some factors and details that you don’t know yet, or that may need to be worked out along the path and that’s fine. Just work the best you can with what you have, but do make sure you get as specific as you possibly can.

Instead of declaring you “want to have more money” get clear on what that actually means and looks like to you. Set a goal that you can easily measure and know you have achieved it, like “make $5,000 by the end of this month.” Because you know what? Finding a quarter on the ground outside the Starbucks is considered “having more money” than you have now! And your unconscious mind will certainly think the intention has been met, which means it will stop pursuing it any further.

 

4. Break it down

Too often people set a huge goal and then just go after it (*cough cough, me, cough cough.*) Action is fantastic; most people procrastinate and/or just talk about what they’re going to do. But if the goal or intention is too grand then the unconscious mind can get overwhelmed, because it works on the basis of least resistance we need to come up with bite-sized chunks to baby step our way to momentum. If your unconscious mind is staring at your goal and feels overwhelmed because it doesn’t even know how to take the next step, this is how self-sabotage patterns come into play and our mind will do whatever it takes to distract us from the intention because it just doesn’t think it can handle it.

 

5. Create an Internal Representation

Here’s the Houdini magic to fire it all up: create an Internal Representation (IR) of what success looks like in the context of your goal/intention. Is it a movie or is it a still image? Whatever it is, crank it up! Make it larger than life, make it bright with vibrant colors, see all the things you’ll see when you have it, see anyone who will be there with you, see what you’ll have acquired along the way.

Hear all the praise, the celebration, hear all the things you’ll hear and say to yourself when you get it. Feel everything you imagine you’ll feel once you have it. How do you feel when everyone is congratulating you for what you’ve accomplished? How will you feel about yourself? What emotions will be present? What sensations in your body will you experience?

Hold on to that for a few moments or several minutes if you’d like, the longer you remain attached to it the better it works. You can make it a daily visualization/meditation practice if you’d like. Once you feel content with the IR then step out of the picture, come back to the present moment you’re in now, and let your mind desire it.

You see, the unconscious mind is very much like a toddler in its behaviors. Have you ever seen a kid in the store grab something off the shelf and then the parents put it back? The kid loses their shit, right? That’s what we’re doing here. After you imagine success at that level and then take it away, the unconscious has a bit of a tantrum and wants it back. So it will crave it and will guide you in getting it back. Our minds can’t tell the difference between fantasy and reality, so the more we associate with the IR the more the mind will want that back. 

Now, is this how you’ve approached your goals and intentions that you’ve struggled to obtain? I’m guessing not. So pick something you want and run it through this and notice the difference as you take the first action steps towards it. 

Watch the full episodes on Setting Intentions for Success from our Root Cause for Success Podcast below:

The Root Cause of Success Podcast – Episode 1: Setting Intentions for Success – Part 1

New Year, New Intentions! In our very first episode of the Root Cause of Success podcast we discuss why so many people fail when it comes to setting intentions, and why most people give up on their New Year’s resolutions completely by mid to end of January of each year.

The Root Cause of Success Podcast – Episode 2: Setting Intentions for Success – Part 2

In Part 2 of “Setting Intentions for Success” we discuss how to set the most powerful intentions that will produce the results and outcomes you want.